What Does It Mean to Be an Extroverted Introvert?

What Does It Mean to Be an Extroverted Introvert? How to tell if you are introverted

⌄ Scroll down to continue ⌄ The Social Introvert Unlike the Ambivert, who lives happily between extroversion and introversion, and where one neither dominates, the extroverted introvert lives a happy introverted life, but is also social, naturally. It is not forced or contrived, so therefore the extro-intro is able to adapt to social situations effortlessly

What Does It Mean to Be an Extroverted Introvert?

The Social Introvert

Unlike the Ambivert, who lives happily between extroversion and introversion, and where one neither dominates, the extroverted introvert lives a happy introverted life, but is also social, naturally. It is not forced or contrived, so therefore the extro-intro is able to adapt to social situations effortlessly and enjoy time with others. This allows them to retreat happily to recharge afterwards, without the resentment or frustration that often comes along with socializing. In fact, if not for those necessary times away, friends of the extro-intro would swear they were 100% extrovert.

This oxymoron is all about connections, and substance is the key word here. Not big on small talk, the extro-intro seeks out a deeper connection with those around them. Unlike the extrovert who requires constant social activity to recharge, the extroverted introvert’s time around others is centered around intrigue and curiosity, enabling them to connect with a world outside their own. This also helps in a better understanding of themselves, as they confidently live in a world they are not running away from. Their moments of extroversion serves their introverted nature.

Being an extroverted introvert comes with many benefits, and here are some examples of what it means to live the extro-intro life.

You’re a strong shoulder to cry on

Being a natural empath and an HSP, and with an undoubtedly strong need to connect, the extroverted introvert is unable to ignore the emotions of others. You naturally carry the emotions of others, and due to your extroverted traits, you seek to connect with those emotions outside of yourself. This equates to a great listening ear, a strong shoulder to cry on, comfort and advice. Your natural introverted tendencies allows you to apply your empathetic skills – compassion, sympathy and consideration, while your extroverted traits affords you the communication and friendliness needed for those sensitive moments.

You prefer to bond with others on a deeper level

Like the introvert, you have no desire for superficial friendships, or relationships. When you want social time, it has to be fun and entertaining (yes!), but at its core, it’s all about something more. It’s not enough to simply do what everyone else is doing, there has to be something deeper that pulls you in. Whether it’s catching up with friends or dating – it has to be of substance. And for the extroverted introvert, there is little need to stretch it out if there isn’t something more. Each outing comes with a new opportunity for exploration and understanding. Because the introverts inner world world is so rich, times outside this needs to be especially so. And for the extroverted introvert, anything that is not thoroughly engaging can be draining, and downright boring. Remember, the extro-intro is still an introvert at heart, so the need to connect with you inner most self is still at the forefront of your being. However, as a social introvert, the incentive to socialize is that you are able to bring back some essence of the outside world. In other words, socializing allows you to really sense and perceive the world.

You’re Highly Sensitive

Most introverts can often times be so aware of what is going on around them – sights and sounds – that it can be a tad overwhelming. Their high sensory perception is a hotbed of constant action (no rest!). This allows them to connect with things deeply and powerfully. For the extroverted introvert, this highly sensitive nature is especially so, in social situations. Emotions are heightened, empathy is splendidly attuned and you are aware of all that is going on around you. For the extro-intro this highly sensitive nature is so in tune with the feelings and emotions of others, it is seemingly clairvoyant. Like most introverts your big on ‘vibes’ and ‘sensing’, and because of the social component, you are extremely aware of change in another’s mood and of the emotions of those around you.

You’re excellent in roles with a social aspect

For most introverts, finding the right job that appeals to their introverted nature while connecting them to their passion can be a difficult task. Today’s work culture is very much extrovert-focused, and though things are changing, the provision for introverts still has a way to go. This constant uphill battle to find the perfect role leads to many introverts eventually being forced into roles unsuited for them. Mostly roles with a high social factor, requiring them to be ‘on’ constantly – square peg, round hole. However, for the extro-intro, the job hunt becomes a little easier, as you are able to take on roles with a somewhat higher social factor, all while remaining true to your introverted nature. Roles requiring networking and face-to-face interaction do not seem as daunting to the social introvert. They allow you to put to use your social skills, and can very much fulfill that passion and need to connect with others.

You seek opportunities to meet new people

Extroverted introverts are big on meeting new people, and often seek out new opportunities to meet new people. Meet-ups, evening meet and greets and intimate gatherings sit right with you. Places where one can simply go along, meet new people, and leave without the pressure to carry on socializing. This sort of set up seems ‘safe’ for the extro-intro. There is no forced requirement to be friends or socialize constantly afterwards. You can get in, talk up a storm, have fun, and then leave to recharge.

This love of wanting to connect with new people also makes the extroverted introverted an innate traveler, who seeks to understand new cultures. This may explain why many social introverts enjoy the pursuit of learning new languages, as you seek new ways and forms to engage with others.

You make recharging a priority

Being an introvert comes with a multitude of guilt ridden feelings. Feeling guilty for not being around, feeling guilty for appearing anti-social, and the biggie – feeling guilty for needing to recharge. The need to recharge is the holy grail for any introvert – social, or otherwise. Without this down time, an introvert’s wires will become frazzled; tempers shortened and mood negatively impacted. As a social introvert, the extroverted introvert knows that the enjoyment of any social time is dependent on how much they’ve recharged beforehand, and so they take this step very seriously. Sure there is always going to be some guilt surrounding getting away to do so, and others may never fully understand why you have to disappear once in a while, but to the social introvert, it’s a matter of priority. You make no excuses for slipping off to recharge your batteries, and do so, confidently.

You radiate introverted confidence

A social introvert is assured in their introversion, and has had to wade many storms in order to get to this confident place. A place that allows you to be unapologetic in your introversion while enjoying extroverted benefits. Having reached a place of comfort in your own skin, and not feeling as though you have to apologize for your much needed introverted absences, you can socialize happily, as and when you wish. Yes, there is still the occasional guilt trip put upon you by others, but you deal with it on a case by case basis, which means you refuse to attribute any negative and damaging outside pressures to your internal dialogue.

A wonderful contradiction, the extroverted introvert is a confident type who celebrates their introverted existence, and is driven by their curiosity, and a want and need to discover and connect.

You appreciate introversion, and extroversion

Understanding between extroverts and introverts is often strained. So much miscommunication! With extroverts often failing to ‘get’ introverts at all, and intros simply wishing to be understood, or left alone. However, for the extro-intro, this miscommunication is somewhat eased. Dipping your toes into social situations, more than the average introvert, gives you insight into how the other half live. The extroverted introvert understands what makes their extroverted counterparts tick, and though they may not ‘get’ it on occasion, this introvert can certainly appreciate the difference.

You’re true to your introverted and extroverted natures

There’s nothing that grinds the introverts gears more than having to pretend they’re something they’re not. The constant pressure introverts suffer to comply with a world that seems to only reward extroverted behavior is something the introvert can do without. So it’s no secret then that being an introvert often requires some sort of mask, an extroverted front, in order to just get by. Doing this is often followed by negative consequences for the introvert, leading to low mood, anxiety, stress and complete burn out. For the extroverted introvert however, there is no faking it. They are able to fully enjoy the social experience taking full stock of where they are, without feeling pressured to give more than they can, all while comfortably interacting with those around them.

And the best part is, there is no inner turmoil from feeling dishonest or fake. It’s all about being true to yourself.

What is a an introvert? How to tell if you are introverted

Introversion is a personality trait. Introverted people tend to be more focused on internal feelings. They are usually quiet, reserved, and reflective.

Introversion and extroversion exist on opposite ends of a spectrum. Although some introverts enjoy being alone as often as possible, others like the occasional social gathering. Some introverts may also feel the need to “recharge” after socializing by spending time alone.

This article explains introversion, outlines the essential differences between extroversion and introversion, and provides information on identifying whether or not someone is an introvert.

A woman, is is the definition of an introvert, paints in her room or studio.

The terms “introvert” and “extrovert” originate from Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung’s theory of psychological type.

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), introverts tend toward their inner self, thoughts, and feelings. They are typically more withdrawn, reserved, and quiet, and they usually prefer to work alone.

They are very different from extroverts, who tend to be outgoing, sociable, and expressive individuals. Extroverts tend to seek social interaction and like being around other people.

Introverts obtain their energy from within, while extroverts prefer active involvement in events and activities involving other people.

Highly stimulating situations with lots of social interaction are draining for introverts, while these types of encounters tend to fuel extroverts.

Extroverts usually enjoy being with others and have outgoing personalities. They are comfortable in group settings and tend to have a large social circle. Unlike introverts, they gain energy from social situations.

A 2007 study suggests that extroverts react differently to dopamine. For extroverts, dopamine — when the body releases it in response to social interactions — elicits satisfaction. For introverts, the response to this kind of dopamine release is overstimulation.

Introverts are usually more comfortable in smaller groups or alone. They do not usually have big groups of friends and prefer to befriend or get to know a few people.

One 2015 study found that extroverts were happier overall than introverts. The study associated happiness with higher relationship quality. Some introverts did score highly for quality of social relationships, but they were in the minority.

Introverts tend to be:

  • quiet
  • reserved
  • withdrawn
  • independent
  • deliberate
  • thoughtful
  • planning-oriented
  • deep thinkers

Introverts usually like to be alone and recharge by spending time by themselves. They may enjoy independent activities that allow them to refuel their energy stores.

Although introverts might enjoy certain social situations, interacting with other people tends to be draining for them.

An introvert may also prefer to have a close circle of friends instead of many acquaintances. One 2015 study suggests that high quality relationships are key to happiness for introverts.

People often associate introversion with negative personality traits. However, introverts are not necessarily ultra-shy, unfriendly, or socially awkward. They simply draw their energy in a different way than extroverts do.

Although the above traits may fit with an introvert’s personality, an introvert is not always only quiet, reserved, or independent. They may display other personality traits and even share some with extroverts.

People sometimes confuse introversion for social anxiety. These are not the same thing. Both introverts and extroverts can experience anxiety, including social anxiety.

Introversion and extroversion exist on a spectrum. Some introverts may have outgoing personality traits, and certain extroverts might enjoy spending time alone.

Introverts and extroverts can share personality traits, though some preferences are more dominant than others.

A person with introverted tendencies might still like to go to parties and socialize with others. However, they will likely need to spend time alone afterward to recharge.

Most people are not pure extroverts or introverts and will fall somewhere along the spectrum. Somewhere in the middle of the range is the ambivert, who shares qualities with both personality types.

A person is likely to be an introvert if the following statements apply:

  • They are quiet or reflective.
  • They prefer to befriend one or two people and know them well.
  • They enjoy being alone and prefer individual tasks and activities.
  • They often spend time thinking and reflecting, and they may be slow to action.

People looking for a quick way to identify where they fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum can access several online quizzes that purport to determine introversion or extroversion.

However, the accuracy of these tests is questionable, and the results depend on how honestly a person answers the questions.

Introversion is a personality trait. Introverts are typically reflective, quiet, and reserved.

Extroversion is on the opposite end of the spectrum to introversion. It is important to note that one personality type is not better or worse than another. Introverts simply approach, react, and interact with the world in a different way than extroverts do.

Although these terms are useful for describing a person’s general personality type, it is impossible to confine the essence of a person to a single descriptor.

What Is an Extrovert? Personality, Characteristics, Type, and More

 

Extroverts are often described as the life of the party. Their outgoing, vibrant nature draws people to them, and they have a hard time turning away the attention. They thrive off the interaction.

On the opposite side are introverts. These people are typically described as more reserved. They may engage in a multitude of social activities, but they need time away from others to recharge their energy.

In the 1960s, psychologist Carl Jung first described introverts and extraverts when discussing personality elements. (The term now commonly used is extroverts.) He classified these two groups based on where they found their source of energy. In short, Jung argued extroverts are energized by crowds and interaction with the external world. Introverts need alone time to recharge, and they’re often more reserved in their manners and engagement with others.

As Jung discovered, being an extrovert isn’t an all or nothing option. Instead, most people fall somewhere on a spectrum between the two polar ends. In the years since Jung’s theories first became popular, research has discovered there are genetic and hormonal reasons some people display more extroverted characteristics than others.

Here are some common personality traits associated with extroversion:

You enjoy social settings

People with more extroverted tendencies are often the center of attention — and they like it that way. They thrive in social situations, and they seek out social stimulation. Extroverts often aren’t afraid to introduce themselves to new people, and they rarely avoid unfamiliar situations for fear of messing up or not knowing someone.

You don’t like or need a lot of alone time

While introverts need to escape to their homes or offices after a night out with friends or an intense meeting, extroverts find that too much alone time drains their natural energy. They recharge their internal batteries by being around other people.

You thrive around people

Extroverts feel comfortable in large groups. They may be more likely to spearhead group sports or group outings. They may be the ring leader for weekend activities, after-work cocktail hours, or other social events. They rarely turn down invitations to weddings, parties, and other gatherings.

You’re friends with many people

Extroverts make new friends easily. This is in part because they enjoy other people’s energy and getting to engage with people around them. They also tend to have a large social network and many acquaintances. With pursuing new interests and activities, extroverts are often keen to expand their social circles.

You prefer to talk out problems or questions

While introverts are more likely to internalize problems and think through them, extroverts don’t mind taking their problems to others for discussion and guidance. They’re often more willing to express themselves openly and make clear their preferences or choices.

You’re outgoing and optimistic

Extroverts are often described as happy, positive, cheerful, and sociable. They aren’t as likely to dwell on problems or ponder difficulties. While they experience difficulties and troubles like anyone else, extroverts are often more able to let it roll off their backs.

You aren’t afraid of risk

Extroverts may engage in risky behavior. Some theories assert that their brain is wired to reward them for it if it goes well. One study found that extroverts who take risks and succeed are rewarded with dopamine, a chemical that triggers the reward center of the brain. In the case of the study, participants gambled, but the response could be true for any number of activities.

Extroverts may be more willing to take risks because the benefit is a surge of chemicals that stimulate the brain.

You’re flexible

Extroverts are often adaptable to any situation and innovative when problems arise. While they may be organized, not all extroverts need a plan of action before they can begin a project, plan a vacation, or undertake any task. Spontaneous decisions may be welcomed.

If you think you don’t match all the extroverted characteristics, you’re not alone. The reality is, most people do fall somewhere in the middle. Very few people are purely one type of personality. Even people who couldn’t dream of spending a Saturday night at home for fear of missing out on a great party need time to themselves occasionally.

Also, people can change personalities over the course of a lifetime. You may be more introverted as a child but find that you’re more extroverted as an adult. Fluctuations in the personality spectrum are normal. Some people even work to be more or less extroverted with help from therapists or self-help programs.

Of course, a large part of your personality is determined even before you make your first friend. Your genes play a role in your personality. In fact, one study found that the genes that control how your brain responds to dopamine may predict your personality characteristics.

Of course, brain chemistry isn’t the only factor involved in determining where you fall along the personality continuum, from introvert to extrovert. Your personality traits are part of your evolution and growth as an individual. They’re what make you unique.