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These conversation starters make it easy and fun to find things to talk about with your girlfriend – even if you’re on a first date.
In What to Talk About With Your Boyfriend, I describe how – before we got married – my boyfriend would call me and not say anything. He didn’t know what to talk about, but he wanted to connect with me. It was sort of sweet and sort of frustrating! Sweet because I knew my boyfriend liked me, but frustrating because I had to do all the work and make all the conversation. Don’t put your girlfriend in that position. In this article, you’ll find 10 interesting things to talk about, plus 3 bonus conversation tips from Business Insider.
Show your girlfriend that you’re interested in her by talking about things that interest both her and you. If you’re not curious about who she is and what she thinks, then you can’t build a deep, loving, healthy relationship. It’s important to be curious about who she is, what she thinks, and how she feels. If you’re wondering what to talk about with your girlfriend, listen to what she says and ask questions about her life. Be sincere and honest in your goal to get to know her better.
You’ll find more things to talk about with your girlfriend if you:
It may seem like a lot of work at first, but it’s easier if you just focus on your girlfriend. The key to being an excellent conversationalist is to LISTEN. Allow a few seconds of silence to pass after your girlfriend stops talking, or say “mmhmm” to show you’re listening. People respond well to moments of silence – it gives them a chance to collect their thoughts and continue talking.
These conversation starters will not only give you lots of things to talk about with your girlfriend, they’ll make you a better listener. And that will make you a better boyfriend.
“I love my girlfriend but I never know what to say to her,” says Sam on How to Handle Your Boyfriend’s Lack of Effort. “I don’t know how to talk to girls. I don’t want to talk about marriage or kids or the future. I just want to have a nice time, an interesting conversation. What do I talk about with my girlfriend?”
Women like to talk. For most females, conversation comes naturally. Indeed, conversation is a requirement that must be met in order for women to feel happy in in their relationship! That’s why finding things to talk about with your girlfriend is crucial – even when you’ve been together (or even married) for years.
Here’s the first thing to remember when you’re looking for things to talk about with your girlfriend: be curious about her. Ask how she spent her day, what she did, how she felt and what she say. Show your girlfriend that you’re interested in her by talking about things that interest both of you, and by developing a sincere and genuine curiosity about her life. The conversation starters below will not only give you lots of things to talk about with your girlfriend, they’ll make you a better listener. And that will make you a better boyfriend.
Of all the things to talk about with your girlfriend, the last topic should be you. Don’t explain the details of your video games, sports, work, school, or hobbies. Unless, of course, she asks.
Sometimes I ask my husband what the best thing was about today; I love hearing what made him happy or gave him a good laugh! Ask your girlfriend what made her happy, or what brightened her day at work or school. Maybe you could even send her flowers or give her a gift – maybe YOU could be the best part of her day.
If your girlfriend says the best part of her day was lunch with her coworkers, ask questions about it. Here are some questions to get her to keep talking:
One of the best ways to start a conversation – or change the subject – is to say, “I’ve always wanted to ask you…” This shows your girlfriend that you’re thinking about her when you’re not together.
This can be the most interesting of all things to talk about with your girlfriend, because it’ll give you a chance to learn more about what fires her up. She’ll talk about what annoys, frustrates, hurts, and even grieves her. This helps you get to know her more intimately, and gives you the chance to comfort and commiserate with her.
I know it sounds simple to focus on listening to your girlfriend and asking her questions, but trust me. We all love to talk about ourselves, and we believe we are the most interesting things to talk about. Your girlfriend loves to talk about herself, and if you’re truly interested in her then you’ll enjoy hearing what she has to say. You won’t just be filling the silence with these things to talk about – you’ll actually be learning more about her and improving your relationship.
Do you feel anxious about talking to your girlfriend – or talking to girls in general? Read How to Stop Anxiety From Ruining Your Relationship.
Did your girlfriend tell you about something that happened last week, month, or even year? Follow up on it – find out what happened. For example, if your girlfriend told you about a problem at work or school, ask her how it turned out.
You might say, “When you were talking about _____, I remembered what you told me about _____. Whatever happened with that?”
This is one of the most thoughtful things to talk about with your girlfriend. Why? Because it shows you actually remember what’s happening in her life. She will be so pleased and happy to tell you about how a situation was resolved – or if it’s still ongoing.
One of my favorite conversation starters is asking people about their childhood. Most of us love to talk about when we were kids – especially the happy memories of summer days or vacations or playing with friends.
If you’re looking for things to talk about with your girlfriend, don’t just ask, “What was your childhood like?” Instead, ask specific questions about her life as a kid. What did she want to be when she grew up? What was her favorite sport, game, or toy? Who was her best friend? What is her favorite memory
How often do you initiate serious conversations about your future as a couple, money, sex, family, home ownership, or work? Your girlfriend may be more comfortable talking about these things than you…but she might really appreciate you bringing up these topics!
If you and your girlfriend haven’t talked about your future yet, you might ask where she sees herself in one year, five years, ten years. Start thinking about what you want out of this relationship, where you see yourself going.
Do you think marriage is the next step for you and your girlfriend? Read What Do You Need to Know Before the Wedding? 20 Premarital Questions. That will give you plenty of things to talk about with your girlfriend.
One of my favorite things to talk about with anyone is food! Is your girlfriend a foodie – does she enjoy eating, cooking, baking, or even decorating platters of food?
I don’t really like to cook, but I love talking about what I had for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Never underestimate the power of talking to your girlfriend about mundane things, such as where she ate lunch and who she was with. It’s not what you talk about how you talk about it.
Also – don’t be a “conversation hog” and dominate everything you talk about. But, don’t expect your girlfriend to make all the conversation! Treat the conversation as a tennis match and be sure to return the ball with four and genuine interest.
First, think about your three most favorite topics of conversation. What could you talk about forever? For example, I love to talk about finding your calling, blogging, business, my dogs, personal and spiritual growth, psychology, biking, RVing, and food. I love talking about all sorts of things, which makes conversation with people of the same mind easy.
What are your girlfriend’s top 3 favorite things to talk about? If you don’t know, ask her. If she can’t think of anything right away, give her my list – or tell her your favorite things to talk about. Spend some time talking to your girlfriend about your and her favorite topics of conversation. This is important, and can tell you something very interesting about your relationship.
Do you and your girlfriend have trouble finding things to talk about? This exercise might be very revealing. If you and your girlfriend have totally different ideas about interesting things to talk about, then you know why conversation is a drag. You have little in common.
Now we’re getting into one of the most important things to talk about with your girlfriend: God. How spiritual are you? If you believe in Jesus, talk to her about your spiritual life. If you feel like you’ve been burned by God or church, talk about that. Are you an atheist or agnostic? That’s an interesting thing to talk to your girlfriend about!
And remember my first tip on this list of things to talk about with your girlfriend: LISTEN! Don’t just talk to her about your beliefs, values, and experiences with faith and religion. Ask her about her spiritual history. You might even share your spiritual autobiographies.
I tend to multitask, and I know I don’t communicate well when I’m talking and driving and planning and thinking ahead. The LAST thing I do when I’m talking to anyone is scrolling through my iPhone or clicking around the internet on my laptop.
This isn’t exactly something to talk about, but it’ll make your conversations with your girlfriend so much more meaningful.
TableTopics – Questions to Start Great Conversations is the #1 best-selling conversation starter – and it will make make conversations with your girlfriend fun and lively. It contains 135 thought-provoking questions inspire the best kinds of conversation between couples, at dinner parties, family gatherings, or any time you want to break the ice. TableTopics is a fun way for family and friends to reconnect and discover more about themselves and each other.
Sample questions: What’s the most beautiful place you’ve ever seen? Is it more important to be book smart or street smart? What do you love about your hometown? If you could have front row seats to any concert who would you like to see? Those questions will give you lots to talk about with your girlfriend.
For more conversation starters and ideas, read 10 Things to Talk About on Your First Date (even if it’s not your first date).
I welcome your thoughts on these things to talk about with your girlfriend. I can’t offer relationship advice or counseling, but it often helps to write about what you’re experiencing.
I recently found a short but helpful video called “What You Should Talk About On a First Date, According to Research” on Business Insider. Since the video is only one minute long, I transcribed it. Here are the three main topics of conversation:
Talking about controversial topics can make people happier with the conversation – if you stay calm, curious, and openminded. Also, if you talk about hot button issues like politics, you’ll definitely get to know your girlfriend better.
Want to talk about politics with your girlfriend? Read 6 Relationship Tips for Liberals and Conservatives in Love.
Remember that your conversations with your girlfriend will go smoothly if you are sincerely interested in her. Get to know who she is. Connect with her on a heart and soul level, and you’ll never have to search for ideas on what to talk about with your girlfriend again.